It's true, I am.
I've been avoiding my friend because quite frankly her constant whining and man hunting is starting to really grate on my nerves. She's always got a different man on the go and these "relationships" usually last no longer than a week. This is how it goes, she meets someone (either online or in a pub while shitfaced) invites them back to hers, does or doesn't sleep with them (don't care either way) then they tell her the next time she texts, rings or chats online that they don't want a steady girlfriend. She then cries and bitches to me about men using her for one thing, I console her and she moves on to the next victim. I've told her if she wants to stop being used for sex then she shouldn't shag them within a minute of meeting them.
BUT...she still has all these "ex's" come round her house at night even though she reckons they are now only friends. Now she's chatting to some squaddie in Iraq who she says she's falling for (excuse me?) and is "waiting for" and yet she still has her last ex who she only split with a week ago come round to stay the night. But she says she's not a slapper. Sorry love, if it looks like a duck..... Twelve men in 6 months hardly makes for convent material.
So I've stopped going round so often and I actually blanked her 2 phone calls this morning as I don't know what else to say to her. I've tried my hardest to get her to realise what she's doing is stupid and dangerous especially seeing as she doesn't use protection when she's copping off with all these different lads. Plus, her 6 year old son is seeing all these blokes come and go and it's started to affect him as well as he's really started being a little bastard to her.
I don't want to do it anymore, she's a grown woman and needs to learn to cope with her own life without dumping it all on me and I'll be telling her later as I'm running out of polite excuses not to see her. She'll probably end up hating me.
So I'm a bad friend...but I think I can live with that.
! Joking aside though, I think you're right that you do need to say something about all this to her. If she wants to be taken seriously by men as possible relationship material, jumping into bed with them at the first opportunity is not the best way to go about that!
You are a good friend to her and to your self by letting her get on with it, she knows the risks and she is definately going to end up with something...She needs help but she will not listen, so best for you to move on. I feel sorry for her poor kid...
2007-06-13 @ 14:40